Funerals and Berevement
We deeply regret that, because of COVID-19, funerals may now only take place at the Crematorium or at the graveside. Only immediate family members can attend (if the crematorium allows) – that is, spouse or partner, parents and children, keeping their distance in the prescribed way. No wake or gathering should be held following the funeral, and this should be scheduled for a later date.
We recognise how difficult this will be for many and add to the pain of a loss, and encourage you to discuss with the Priest at Hadstock the possibility of a memorial service at a date in the future where more people can be present.
Once we are able to resume public worship, the advice below will apply.’
The death of someone close is a very sad time and there is always such a lot to do when you least feel able to cope. Whatever your needs, we are here to help at this difficult time. Please don’t hesitate to contact us if you have any questions regarding death or funerals or bereavement.
A funeral service in church is for anyone, whether or not they have been regular churchgoers. It is best to approach your chosen funeral directors first. They will liaise with the vicar initially, and one of the clergy team will then contact you to arrange a visit.
Planning a Funeral Service
A funeral service may be held in St. Botolph’s, or at a crematorium, or in a cemetery chapel. The Priest at Hadstock or another member of the Team Ministry will be available to take the service in whichever setting you choose.
The Priest at Hadstock will help you plan the service, which can be very simple, or more elaborate if you wish. It usually lasts about thirty minutes and always includes prayers, a Bible reading and a short address. Hymns, music, other readings and a tribute to your loved one can also be included. Please let the Priest at Hadstock know if you, or any of your family or friends, would like to contribute to the service.
A funeral service is for everyone who knew the deceased, children as well as adults. Often children can find it very helpful to be present.
The final part of the service is the committal of the person’s earthly body to be cremated or buried.
When the service in church is followed by burial in the cemetery, the prayer of committal takes place at the graveside.
Where there is a cremation, this prayer of committal can take place at the crematorium or at the end of the service in church. Many people choose to have the complete service in church, including this final act, in the surroundings that would have been familiar to the deceased and with the whole congregation present and able to participate.
St. Botolph’s Churchyard is available for burials for people from the Parish.
Visit the Church of England funerals website.
Grieving seldom ends with the funeral. It is natural to feel the emptiness for a considerable time afterwards. St Botolph’s Church may be able to offer you some comfort at this time. Please contact us if you would appreciate a call.
Every autumn (on the Sunday nearest to All Souls’ Day, either at the end of October or the beginning of November) we hold a service of remembrance to give thanks for all those whom we have loved.
“Jesus said, I am the resurrection, and I am the life; he who believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and whoever lives and believes in me shall never die” – John 11:25-26
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted” – Matthew 5:4
If you would like more information then please contact us.